Today’s post is about the age old question of who pays on a date. Now there are varying opinions on the subject. I have a traditional, old school, older friend who says men should always pay, especially on the first date. I tend to agree about the first date. If he can’t pick up the tab, what does that say about him?
I’m dating someone now who pays. He pays for everything. Saturday we went to an open house at the EBA artists’ collective, ok it was free. We then went for bubble tea, he paid. Then on to a concert where he also paid and bought drinks. I get the impression I’ll never have to open my wallet with him. Now that’s not a bad thing as I’m between contracts at the moment and funds are uber tight. But what would most of my female peers think? Would they be ok with letting a man pay or would they insist on paying their share, half?
As someone who has been on my fair share of dates, ok maybe more than my fair share, I’ve seen some pretty funny stuff when it comes time to settle the bill. I had one guy at a bar say: “Ok I’ll pay for this drink, you get the next” on a first date. There was no next, I quickly hightailed it out of there. My traditional older friend said: “Screw him, if he makes a fuss over the first drink he ain’t worth your time.”
I have a girlfriend who pays in function of who invites whom. She invites, she pays. I don’t know, not terribly romantic is it?
What do you think?